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Can you trust your partner?  

The cornerstone of every good relationship is trust.  Without it, the relationship cannot survive.  Yet there appears to be a common theme emerging in recent years in Western society – female equality is impacting relationships in ways unforeseen and not always beneficial.  

Statistically women are more likely to cheat on their partners now that at any time in the recent past.  When men cheat they try to be clever and hide it, but men just aren’t as clever socially or in picking up subtle body language or signs as women are.  Quite often the woman knows her partner has cheated even before he does (joke).  The point is that women are better at reading men than men are at reading women.  In other words, a woman has a better chance of spotting her partner cheating than a man does.

Where does this leave men?  In a changing world where women have more equality (and rightly so), they do seem to be picking up some of the bad habits of a certain type of man.  Cheating is on the rise amongst women… and men have a big disadvantage in fighting this:

• In divorce, men tend to lose more (highly debatable statement, but let us assume it for now). 
•  If a man cheats and his partner does not find out about it, she will not raise the child which he may father.  If a woman cheats and her partner does not find out about it, he will spend a sizable portion of his life raising another man’s child, without even being aware of it.  
• Men will often find it hard to spot if a woman is cheating.

Put these few points together and the stakes are suddenly quite high for a man to get married; he stands to lose a lot if his partner proves not to be trustworthy.  Yet he may never know this about her.  Hence another reason why men are slowing moving away from marriage.  

I understand this is very controversial what I am saying, but sometimes it is healthy to play devil’s advocate and see what debate it provokes.

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Working at a relationship is often easier said than done.  We all have many reasons and grievances which make us stop short of fulfilling the obligations we make in a relationship.  Why do we sometimes fail to do what we set out to achieve in our relationship and end up hurting ourselves and our partner in the process.  A few human attributes spring to mind as the cause of this: anger, selfishness, greed, to name but a few.

Making a relationship work is all about facing up to the relationship challenges.  The number one challenge is about putting the other person first.  We naturally wish to defend and protect ourselves first, but in doing so we can cause problems.  By first putting yourself in your partner’s shoes (methaphorically speaking), you should be able to see the situation from their perspective.  Often that is all that is required to calm your own feelings of resentment or anger and hence approach the problem more unemotionally.

It is not easy to tackle relationship problems if your motivation for being in a relationship is materialistic, i.e. for money, security, physical satisfaction, etc.  First try to develop true feelings and understand your partner.  Place your partner’s happiness at least as equal to your own.  Only then are you in a position to maturely handle conflict as it arises.  Remember to make them happy, and put in as much effort as you do to make yourself happy.  If you find you are treating yourself so much more better than you are treating your partner, then you need to look a little at yourself and be honest about your reasons for being in that relationship.  Is it really about love, or about comfort?

To achieve relationship harmony, you need to make sure both you and your partner are happy.  Remember, to follow the path to happiness, it is often easiest to send your partner ahead first.

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