Relationship Expectations
Often the reason for disharmony in a relationship is the level of expectation from one or both partners. It stands to reason that if one partner expects very little from the other then they will indeed be extremely happy if their expectations are exceeded, which most likely will happen. However, if someone in a relationship has high expectations, then their partner may struggle to fulfil those elevated desires. This can have a two-fold impact. Firstly the partner with high expectations will feel frustrated and disappointed if their expectations are not met. Secondly, their partner will feel hurt and stressed at failing to live up to what their partner demands from them. This will of course put strain on a relationship.
I think the answer lies somewhere between what a person expects and what their partner can realistically provide. With a little bit of practical evaluation of one’s expectations, it is possible to change them slightly to make them more accessible for the partner, without compromising too much on the end goal. If compromise is encouraged, then both parties in the relationship can more easily achieve a happy medium where their needs are addressed without causing hurt and frustration to the other.