Finding Time for Yourself
Most people put a relatively decent amount of effort into a relationship. I would guess that not enough effort is made on average, but instead of that, I wish to focus on another aspect of relationships and that is the commitment one makes to oneself.
Even if you are the best partner in the world (maybe especially so), you could easily find yourself in a position where you neglect yourself and suffer from this neglect. By this I mean, not dedicating enough time to your own development and relaxation. It is not difficult to get into the habit of always putting other people first and eventually finding yourself emotionally and physically tired. Now, this is not a green light to be over-whelmingly self-centred; more like a gentle reminder to look at your own life and find ways to make time to do those things which give you your energy back.
I find having a nice relaxing walk helps, or even going for a run. Sometimes instead of compromising on what DVD to watch, choose something you personally want to see. Even in conversation, sometimes it is best to expect your partner to listen to you, rather than you always listening to them (not that you should have to fight for this ‘privilege’). There are many ways to look after yourself and rejuvinate your energy levels. Being in a relationship does not mean that you cannot also think of yourself.
Remember that a lifetime of compromising can leave you unfulfilled, resentful and unmotivated. Take charge of where you want to go, what you want to do and make sure it happens… all the time without detracting from the dedication and thoughtfulness which you show others in your life… it is possible to look after others and yourself at the same time.