Most people put a relatively decent amount of effort into a relationship. I would guess that not enough effort is made on average, but instead of that, I wish to focus on another aspect of relationships and that is the commitment one makes to oneself.
Even if you are the best partner in the world (maybe especially so), you could easily find yourself in a position where you neglect yourself and suffer from this neglect. By this I mean, not dedicating enough time to your own development and relaxation. It is not difficult to get into the habit of always putting other people first and eventually finding yourself emotionally and physically tired. Now, this is not a green light to be over-whelmingly self-centred; more like a gentle reminder to look at your own life and find ways to make time to do those things which give you your energy back.
I find having a nice relaxing walk helps, or even going for a run. Sometimes instead of compromising on what DVD to watch, choose something you personally want to see. Even in conversation, sometimes it is best to expect your partner to listen to you, rather than you always listening to them (not that you should have to fight for this ‘privilege’). There are many ways to look after yourself and rejuvinate your energy levels. Being in a relationship does not mean that you cannot also think of yourself.
Remember that a lifetime of compromising can leave you unfulfilled, resentful and unmotivated. Take charge of where you want to go, what you want to do and make sure it happens… all the time without detracting from the dedication and thoughtfulness which you show others in your life… it is possible to look after others and yourself at the same time.
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The new dating site layout is ready to be published online. A few modifications are still required, but largely everything is ready and should be visible soon enough.
A lot of work still needs to be performed on the SEO side of things, as well as a few smaller bits of technical design. Hopefully in a few weeks traffic to the site will start growing once the new-improved SEO-friendly design has been rolled-out. This blog still plays an important part in keeping Google visiting the site, despite the constant ‘in development’ status of it, so I will keep posting to it until the site starts growing in strength.
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As ClickinLove is predominantly a dating site dedicated to intercultural dating, I thought I would touch on the subject of language problems couples may face when they are in an intercultural relationship. Besides for the inevitable misunderstanding which can arise due to both people having a different set of reference customs, there are also issues which occur when one or other misconstrues the meaning and nuances of idiomatic expressions and language peculiarities.
For instance, sarcasm, which may be a common conversational element in one culture, could prove hard to understand for someone from another culture. Often an incomplete grasp of the language can make understanding sarcasm a little tricky and the meaning can go very awry. Yet the person being sarcastic may not realise that their comment was misunderstood and the person who misunderstood may probably not even know that they made a mistake in their understanding of what was said and meant. Consequently, communication between both people has suffered, yet neither may actually realise this.
That is why it is especially important in intercultural dating to avoid relying too heavily on cultural traits when talking, to try and avoid idiomatic expressions, colloquialisms and other such sentence constructs which can cause ambiguity. The danger is that, unlike normal communication problems where issues can be identified and eventually resolved, with cross-cultural language issues, both people may not actually realise that the other person has misunderstood them. Eventually, somewhere down the line, these issues will surface and the underlying reason for them will be hard to determine; by that stage it may be too late to backtrack and resolve the issues.
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If you do a lot of work with Macromedia products and image-editing software like Adobe Photoshop, then you really need your development system (i.e. personal computer) to be able to cope with the workload. For example, in Photoshop, you can open and edit many images simultaneously. You might perform various actions on each of these images and if you are dealing with large JPEG’s (in the region of MB’s), then the history of those changes you are making could result in an awful lot of system memory (RAM) being used up. This most likely will slow your system considerably. Throw into the equation the processing power required to cope with using Dreamweaver or a video-editing suite of tools and then your system will really be under stress. The consequence is a sluggish and slow to respond computer which will reduce productivity and increase your frustration as you try to work.
Recently my computer could not seem to keep up with my demands. I had deleted unused data, uninstalled redundant applications and defragmented my hard disc, but still the development work I was doing was eating the system resources too quickly and slowing my work to a grinding halt. After various tweaks, I decided that an upgrade was needed – well actually I opted for a completely new system.
Here is the specification of my newly self-built computer:
- Motherboard – I chose the Gigabyte X48-DQ6
- Processor – Intel Quad Core XQ9450
- RAM – 4 GB
- Power Supply – 500Watts
- Hard Disc – 2 x 320GB SATA, arranged in a RAID0 array
- Graphics card – 512MB
- Fan – the bigger and more silent, the better
- Backup – external hard disc, 80GB in an IDE (PATA) enclosure
I installed XP 64-bit on the system partition and keep all my data on a second partition. I also have a smaller third partition to allow me to archive old data. Note that I use XP 64 for various reasons. Not only is it faster, but it also supports the large amount of RAM I have. For instance, on my system if I run XP 32-bit, the OS only sees 2.9GB RAM, yet there is 4GB RAM installed. On XP 64-bit, it can see all the RAM; this is because 32-bit systems only have an address range of 4 GB and this must be shared with other resources, such as the graphics card. Hence if you use 4GB or more, it is worthwhile getting the 64-bit OS, which can fully utilise your sizeable memory. Just make sure that your processor can cope with the 64-bit system. I use the quad core q9450 from Intel, which is a great processor and one which overclocks very well.
All in all, my system was easy to install and to get working. The improvement in my productivity is actually measurable in terms of time saved and the noticable reduction in frustration, as my computer no longer has to struggle to cope with Photoshop’s extensive RAM usage.
So, my computer upgrade was a very worthwhile exercise in improving my system and allowing me to work faster. I would recommend taking the same action if you find that the common performance tweaks you can normally use are not really helping you get the speed you need from your machine. Just remember, building a system from scratch is not as difficult as you may at first think.
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When it comes to an easy life, only you can provide it; do not depend on your partner to fill the gaps which you have created in your own life. I find that doing a little bit of work everyday keeps my mind active, keeps procrastination at bay and allows me to achieve things which would normally be difficult to achieve if I set out to do it within a competitive time-frame.
One of the biggest factors in failure, is a lack of belief in one’s own abilities, coupled with an incomplete understanding of how to work. The truth is that humans need to achieve to feel good about themselves. It is nearly impossible to sit all day doing nothing constructive and feel at the end of the day exhilarated and happy at what you have not achieved… yet when you work hard for an hour or two you are able to spend the rest of the day relaxed and happy that you are in control of your life and actively building skills and achieving results that will accumulate over time into things which will make you feel good about yourself and which will make your life easier and more happy.
The truth is that a good, happy, relaxed lifestyle only comes with daily effort and you must be patient to wait for the results. If you spend 30 mins everyday running, then don’t expect to breath deeper and feel more energetic and fit in two weeks time (though you will probably see improvements within that time-frame) – keep at it and then in 6 months time you can feel proud of what you have done. Just remember that self-discipline is your friend and procrastination is your nemesis. If you sleep with the wrong one you will end up in trouble and consequently deserve the lifestyle you create.
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Running from the 20th – 28th June, this years Munich Filmfest conincides with the 850th anniversary of the founding of Munich. This is Germany’s second largest fim festival and offers the following program:
- Nouveau Cinéma Français
Many venues throughout the city are utilised for the festival. For a full timetable and listing of the various events, see the official Filmfest Munich site.
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